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Fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath; instead, bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Ephesians 6:4 · Berean Standard Bible
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  • WEB You fathers, don’t provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
  • KJV And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
  • NKJV And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
  • NASB Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
  • NLT Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.

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Quick answer

Fathers must not exasperate their children but raise them in the Lord's discipline and instruction. Parental authority is to be loving and nurturing, not harsh.

Overview

Balancing the call for children's obedience, Paul charges fathers (and parents) not to provoke their children to anger through harshness. Instead they are to nurture them with 'the discipline and instruction of the Lord,' shaping them in godliness. Christian parenting reflects God's own fatherly care, combining correction with patient instruction.

Cross-references & the web

Cross-references · 30

  • Col 3:21Fathers, do not provoke your children, so they will not become discouraged.
  • Prov 22:6Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
  • Prov 29:15A rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother.
  • Prov 19:18Discipline your son, for in that there is hope; do not be party to his death.
  • Deut 6:7And you shall teach them diligently to your children and speak of them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.
  • 2 Tim 3:15From infancy you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.
  • Prov 29:17Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will bring delight to your soul.
  • Prov 23:13–14Do not withhold discipline from a child; although you strike him with a rod, he will not die.
  • Prov 4:1–4Listen, my sons, to a father’s instruction; pay attention and gain understanding.
  • Deut 4:9Only be on your guard and diligently watch yourselves, so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen, and so that they do not slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and grandchildren.
  • Gen 18:19For I have chosen him, so that he will command his children and his household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just, in order that the LORD may bring upon Abraham what He has promised.”
  • Deut 11:19–21Teach them to your children, speaking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.
  • 2 Tim 1:5I am reminded of your sincere faith, which first dwelt in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am convinced is in you as well.
  • Heb 12:7–10Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?
  • Prov 22:15Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.
  • Ps 71:17–18O God, You have taught me from my youth, and to this day I proclaim Your marvelous deeds.
  • Ps 78:4–7We will not hide them from their children, but will declare to the next generation the praises of the LORD and His might, and the wonders He has performed.
  • Deut 6:20–24In the future, when your son asks, “What is the meaning of the decrees and statutes and ordinances that the LORD our God has commanded you?”
  • Isa 38:19The living, only the living, can thank You, as I do today; fathers will tell their children about Your faithfulness.
  • 1 Chr 28:9–10As for you, Solomon my son, know the God of your father and serve Him wholeheartedly and with a willing mind, for the LORD searches every heart and understands the intent of every thought. If you seek Him, He will be found by you; but if you forsake Him, He will reject you forever.
  • 1 Chr 28:20David also said to Solomon his son, “Be strong and courageous, and do it. Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the LORD God, my God, is with you. He will neither fail you nor forsake you before all the work for the service of the house of the LORD is finished.
  • Josh 24:15But if it is unpleasing in your sight to serve the LORD, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your fathers served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are living. As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD!”
  • 1 Sam 20:30–34Then Saul’s anger burned against Jonathan, and he said to him, “You son of a perverse and rebellious woman! Do I not know that you have chosen the son of Jesse to your own shame and to the disgrace of the mother who bore you?
  • Josh 4:6–7to serve as a sign among you. In the future, when your children ask, ‘What do these stones mean to you?’
  • Exod 13:14–15In the future, when your son asks you, ‘What does this mean?’ you are to tell him, ‘With a mighty hand the LORD brought us out of Egypt, out of the house of slavery.
  • Exod 12:26–27When your children ask you, ‘What does this service mean to you?’
  • 1 Chr 22:10–13He is the one who will build a house for My Name. He will be My son, and I will be his Father. And I will establish the throne of his kingdom over Israel forever.’
  • Josh 4:21–24Then Joshua said to the Israelites, “In the future, when your children ask their fathers, ‘What is the meaning of these stones?’
  • 1 Chr 29:19And give my son Solomon a whole heart to keep and carry out all Your commandments, decrees, and statutes, and to build Your palace for which I have made provision.”
  • Gen 31:14–15And Rachel and Leah replied, “Do we have any portion or inheritance left in our father’s house?

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