And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Parallel translations
- WEB You fathers, don’t provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
- BSB Fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath; instead, bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
- NKJV And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
- NASB Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
- NLT Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
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Quick answer
Fathers must not exasperate their children but raise them in the Lord's discipline and instruction. Parental authority is to be loving and nurturing, not harsh.
Overview
Balancing the call for children's obedience, Paul charges fathers (and parents) not to provoke their children to anger through harshness. Instead they are to nurture them with 'the discipline and instruction of the Lord,' shaping them in godliness. Christian parenting reflects God's own fatherly care, combining correction with patient instruction.
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- Col 3:21Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.
- Prov 22:6Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
- Prov 29:15The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.
- Prov 19:18Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.
- Deut 6:7And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
- 2 Tim 3:15And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.
- Prov 29:17Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.
- Prov 23:13–14Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
- Prov 4:1–4Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding.
- Deut 4:9Only take heed to thyself, and keep thy soul diligently, lest thou forget the things which thine eyes have seen, and lest they depart from thy heart all the days of thy life: but teach them thy sons, and thy sons’ sons;
- Gen 18:19For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.
- Deut 11:19–21And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
- 2 Tim 1:5When I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee, which dwelt first in thy grandmother Lois, and thy mother Eunice; and I am persuaded that in thee also.
- Heb 12:7–10If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?
- Prov 22:15Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
- Ps 71:17–18O God, thou hast taught me from my youth: and hitherto have I declared thy wondrous works.
- Ps 78:4–7We will not hide them from their children, shewing to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, and his strength, and his wonderful works that he hath done.
- Deut 6:20–24And when thy son asketh thee in time to come, saying, What mean the testimonies, and the statutes, and the judgments, which the LORD our God hath commanded you?
- Isa 38:19The living, the living, he shall praise thee, as I do this day: the father to the children shall make known thy truth.
- 1 Chr 28:9–10And thou, Solomon my son, know thou the God of thy father, and serve him with a perfect heart and with a willing mind: for the LORD searcheth all hearts, and understandeth all the imaginations of the thoughts: if thou seek him, he will be found of thee; but if thou forsake him, he will cast thee off for ever.
- 1 Chr 28:20And David said to Solomon his son, Be strong and of good courage, and do it: fear not, nor be dismayed: for the LORD God, even my God, will be with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee, until thou hast finished all the work for the service of the house of the LORD.
- Josh 24:15And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.
- 1 Sam 20:30–34Then Saul’s anger was kindled against Jonathan, and he said unto him, Thou son of the perverse rebellious woman, do not I know that thou hast chosen the son of Jesse to thine own confusion, and unto the confusion of thy mother’s nakedness?
- Josh 4:6–7That this may be a sign among you, that when your children ask their fathers in time to come, saying, What mean ye by these stones?
- Exod 13:14–15And it shall be when thy son asketh thee in time to come, saying, What is this? that thou shalt say unto him, By strength of hand the LORD brought us out from Egypt, from the house of bondage:
- Exod 12:26–27And it shall come to pass, when your children shall say unto you, What mean ye by this service?
- 1 Chr 22:10–13He shall build an house for my name; and he shall be my son, and I will be his father; and I will establish the throne of his kingdom over Israel for ever.
- Josh 4:21–24And he spake unto the children of Israel, saying, When your children shall ask their fathers in time to come, saying, What mean these stones?
- 1 Chr 29:19And give unto Solomon my son a perfect heart, to keep thy commandments, thy testimonies, and thy statutes, and to do all these things, and to build the palace, for the which I have made provision.
- Gen 31:14–15And Rachel and Leah answered and said unto him, Is there yet any portion or inheritance for us in our father’s house?
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