Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
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- WEB You fathers, don’t provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
- KJV And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
- BSB Fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath; instead, bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
- NKJV And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
- NASB Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
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Fathers must not exasperate their children but raise them in the Lord's discipline and instruction. Parental authority is to be loving and nurturing, not harsh.
Overview
Balancing the call for children's obedience, Paul charges fathers (and parents) not to provoke their children to anger through harshness. Instead they are to nurture them with 'the discipline and instruction of the Lord,' shaping them in godliness. Christian parenting reflects God's own fatherly care, combining correction with patient instruction.
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- Col 3:21Fathers, don’t provoke your children, so that they won’t be discouraged.
- Prov 22:6Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
- Prov 29:15The rod of correction gives wisdom, but a child left to himself causes shame to his mother.
- Prov 19:18Discipline your son, for there is hope; don’t be a willing party to his death.
- Deut 6:7and you shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise up.
- 2 Tim 3:15From infancy, you have known the holy Scriptures which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith, which is in Christ Jesus.
- Prov 29:17Correct your son, and he will give you peace; yes, he will bring delight to your soul.
- Prov 23:13–14Don’t withhold correction from a child. If you punish him with the rod, he will not die.
- Prov 4:1–4Listen, sons, to a father’s instruction. Pay attention and know understanding;
- Deut 4:9Only be careful, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things which your eyes saw, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life; but make them known to your children and your children’s children;
- Gen 18:19For I have known him, to the end that he may command his children and his household after him, that they may keep the way of Yahweh, to do righteousness and justice; to the end that Yahweh may bring on Abraham that which he has spoken of him.”
- Deut 11:19–21You shall teach them your children, talking of them, when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise up.
- 2 Tim 1:5having been reminded of the sincere faith that is in you; which lived first in your grandmother Lois, and your mother Eunice, and, I am persuaded, in you also.
- Heb 12:7–10It is for discipline that you endure. God deals with you as with children, for what son is there whom his father doesn’t discipline?
- Prov 22:15Folly is bound up in the heart of a child: the rod of discipline drives it far from him.
- Ps 71:17–18God, you have taught me from my youth. Until now, I have declared your wondrous works.
- Ps 78:4–7We will not hide them from their children, telling to the generation to come the praises of Yahweh, his strength, and his wondrous deeds that he has done.
- Deut 6:20–24When your son asks you in time to come, saying, “What do the testimonies, the statutes, and the ordinances, which Yahweh our God has commanded you mean?”
- Isa 38:19The living, the living, he shall praise you, as I do today. The father shall make known your truth to the children.
- 1 Chr 28:9–10You, Solomon my son, know the God of your father, and serve him with a perfect heart and with a willing mind; for Yahweh searches all hearts, and understands all the imaginations of the thoughts. If you seek him, he will be found by you; but if you forsake him, he will cast you off forever.
- 1 Chr 28:20David said to Solomon his son, “Be strong and courageous, and do it. Don’t be afraid, nor be dismayed; for Yahweh God, even my God, is with you. He will not fail you, nor forsake you, until all the work for the service of Yahweh’s house is finished.
- Josh 24:15If it seems evil to you to serve Yahweh, choose today whom you will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell; but as for me and my house, we will serve Yahweh.”
- 1 Sam 20:30–34Then Saul’s anger burned against Jonathan, and he said to him, “You son of a perverse rebellious woman, don’t I know that you have chosen the son of Jesse to your own shame, and to the shame of your mother’s nakedness?
- Josh 4:6–7that this may be a sign among you, that when your children ask in the future, saying, ‘What do you mean by these stones?’
- Exod 13:14–15It shall be, when your son asks you in time to come, saying, ‘What is this?’ that you shall tell him, ‘By strength of hand Yahweh brought us out from Egypt, from the house of bondage.
- Exod 12:26–27It will happen, when your children ask you, ‘What do you mean by this service?’
- 1 Chr 22:10–13He shall build a house for my name; and he will be my son, and I will be his father; and I will establish the throne of his kingdom over Israel for ever.’
- Josh 4:21–24He spoke to the children of Israel, saying, “When your children ask their fathers in time to come, saying, ‘What do these stones mean?’
- 1 Chr 29:19and give to Solomon my son a perfect heart, to keep your commandments, your testimonies, and your statutes, and to do all these things, and to build the palace, for which I have made provision.”
- Gen 31:14–15Rachel and Leah answered him, “Is there yet any portion or inheritance for us in our father’s house?
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