If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who does not obey his father and mother and does not listen to them when disciplined,
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- WEB If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son, who will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother, and though they chasten him, will not listen to them;
- KJV If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them:
- NKJV “If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother, and who, when they have chastened him, will not heed them,
- NASB “If any person has a stubborn and rebellious son who does not obey his father or his mother, and when they discipline him, he does not listen to them,
- NLT “Suppose a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey his father or mother, even though they discipline him.
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Quick answer
This introduces the case of a persistently rebellious son who refuses all parental correction. It frames the gravity of honoring father and mother in the covenant community.
Overview
The law concerns not childish misbehavior but a hardened adult son whose rebellion threatens the family and society. Repeated discipline has failed to reach him. This case upholds the fifth commandment and shows that contempt for God-given authority in the home is a serious covenant matter, foreshadowing how rebellion against the Father ultimately brings judgment apart from grace.
Cross-references & the web
Cross-references · 28
- Lev 19:3Each of you must respect his mother and father, and you must keep My Sabbaths. I am the LORD your God.
- Exod 20:12Honor your father and mother, so that your days may be long in the land that the LORD your God is giving you.
- Amos 4:11–12“Some of you I overthrew as I overthrew Sodom and Gomorrah, and you were like a firebrand snatched from a blaze, yet you did not return to Me,” declares the LORD.
- Heb 12:9–11Furthermore, we have all had earthly fathers who disciplined us, and we respected them. Should we not much more submit to the Father of our spirits and live?
- Prov 20:20Whoever curses his father or mother, his lamp will be extinguished in deepest darkness.
- Isa 1:5Why do you want more beatings? Why do you keep rebelling? Your head has a massive wound, and your whole heart is afflicted.
- Eph 6:1–3Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
- Isa 1:2Listen, O heavens, and give ear, O earth, for the LORD has spoken: “I have raised children and brought them up, but they have rebelled against Me.
- Prov 29:17Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will bring delight to your soul.
- Prov 19:18Discipline your son, for in that there is hope; do not be party to his death.
- Prov 23:13–14Do not withhold discipline from a child; although you strike him with a rod, he will not die.
- Prov 30:17As for the eye that mocks a father and scorns obedience to a mother, may the ravens of the valley pluck it out and young vultures devour it.
- Prov 22:15Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.
- Jer 31:18I have surely heard Ephraim’s moaning: ‘You disciplined me severely, like an untrained calf. Restore me, that I may return, for You are the LORD my God.
- Prov 13:24He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently.
- Deut 27:16‘Cursed is he who dishonors his father or mother.’ And let all the people say, ‘Amen!’
- 2 Sam 7:14I will be his Father, and he will be My son. When he does wrong, I will discipline him with the rod of men and with the blows of the sons of men.
- Ezek 24:13Because of the indecency of your uncleanness I tried to cleanse you, but you would not be purified from your filthiness. You will not be pure again until My wrath against you has subsided.
- Deut 8:5So know in your heart that just as a man disciplines his son, so the LORD your God disciplines you.
- Lev 21:9If a priest’s daughter defiles herself by prostituting herself, she profanes her father; she must be burned in the fire.
- Jer 5:3O LORD, do not Your eyes look for truth? You struck them, but they felt no pain. You finished them off, but they refused to accept discipline. They have made their faces harder than stone and refused to repent.
- Ezek 22:7Father and mother are treated with contempt. Within your walls the foreign resident is exploited, the fatherless and the widow are oppressed.
- Prov 30:11There is a generation of those who curse their fathers and do not bless their mothers.
- Prov 28:24He who robs his father or mother, saying, “It is not wrong,” is a companion to the man who destroys.
- Exod 21:15Whoever strikes his father or mother must surely be put to death.
- Prov 15:5A fool rejects his father’s discipline, but whoever heeds correction is prudent.
- Exod 21:17Anyone who curses his father or mother must surely be put to death.
- Prov 1:8Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction, and do not forsake the teaching of your mother.
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