Oh, I wish you were my brother, who nursed at my mother’s breasts. Then I could kiss you no matter who was watching, and no one would criticize me.
Parallel translations
- WEB Oh that you were like my brother, who nursed from the breasts of my mother! If I found you outside, I would kiss you; yes, and no one would despise me.
- KJV O that thou wert as my brother, that sucked the breasts of my mother! when I should find thee without, I would kiss thee; yea, I should not be despised.
- BSB O that you were to me like a brother who nursed at my mother’s breasts! If I found you outdoors, I would kiss you, and no one would despise me.
- NKJV Oh, that you were like my brother, Who nursed at my mother’s breasts! If I should find you outside, I would kiss you; I would not be despised.
- NASB “Oh that you were like a brother to me Who nursed at my mother’s breasts. If I found you outdoors, I would kiss you; No one would despise me, either.
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Quick answer
The bride wishes she could show her love openly, as freely as kissing a brother in public, without reproach. She longs for an unhindered, unashamed love.
Overview
In her culture only certain public affection was acceptable, so she imagines a freedom to express her love without society's disapproval. Her longing is for nearness and openness, not impropriety. The verse voices the desire of love to be fully and freely shared, a yearning the gospel ultimately answers in the unashamed nearness believers will have with their Lord.
Cross-references & the web
Cross-references · 38
- Zech 9:9Rejoice greatly, daughter of Zion! Shout, daughter of Jerusalem! Behold, your King comes to you! He is righteous, and having salvation; lowly, and riding on a donkey, even on a colt, the foal of a donkey.
- Ps 45:10–11Listen, daughter, consider, and turn your ear. Forget your own people, and also your father’s house.
- Gal 4:26But the Jerusalem that is above is free, which is the mother of us all.
- Ps 102:16–17For Yahweh has built up Zion. He has appeared in his glory.
- Isa 66:11–12that you may nurse and be satisfied at the comforting breasts; that you may drink deeply, and be delighted with the abundance of her glory.”
- Mal 3:1“Behold, I send my messenger, and he will prepare the way before me; and the Lord, whom you seek, will suddenly come to his temple; and the messenger of the covenant, whom you desire, behold, he comes!” says Yahweh of Armies.
- Hag 2:7and I will shake all nations. The precious things of all nations will come, and I will fill this house with glory, says Yahweh of Armies.
- Isa 7:14Therefore the Lord himself will give you a sign. Behold, the virgin will conceive, and bear a son, and shall call his name Immanuel.
- Isa 9:6For to us a child is born. To us a son is given; and the government will be on his shoulders. His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.
- Isa 60:14The sons of those who afflicted you will come bowing to you; and all those who despised you will bow themselves down at the soles of your feet. They will call you Yahweh’s City, The Zion of the Holy One of Israel.
- Luke 2:38Coming up at that very hour, she gave thanks to the Lord, and spoke of him to all those who were looking for redemption in Jerusalem.
- John 7:46–52The officers answered, “No man ever spoke like this man!”
- Phil 3:3For we are the circumcision, who worship God in the Spirit, and rejoice in Christ Jesus, and have no confidence in the flesh;
- Heb 9:26–28or else he must have suffered often since the foundation of the world. But now once at the end of the ages, he has been revealed to put away sin by the sacrifice of himself.
- Matt 13:16–17“But blessed are your eyes, for they see; and your ears, for they hear.
- Luke 18:9He spoke also this parable to certain people who were convinced of their own righteousness, and who despised all others.
- John 8:42Therefore Jesus said to them, “If God were your father, you would love me, for I came out and have come from God. For I haven’t come of myself, but he sent me.
- Luke 7:45–48You gave me no kiss, but she, since the time I came in, has not ceased to kiss my feet.
- Ps 2:12Give sincere homage to the Son, lest he be angry, and you perish on the way, for his wrath will soon be kindled. Blessed are all those who take refuge in him.
- 1 Tim 3:16Without controversy, the mystery of godliness is great: God was revealed in the flesh, justified in the spirit, seen by angels, preached among the nations, believed on in the world, and received up in glory.
- John 13:3Jesus, knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands, and that he came from God, and was going to God,
- Luke 2:26–32It had been revealed to him by the Holy Spirit that he should not see death before he had seen the Lord’s Christ.
- Ps 51:17The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit. A broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.
- John 1:14The Word became flesh, and lived among us. We saw his glory, such glory as of the one and only Son of the Father, full of grace and truth.
- Phil 3:7–8However, I consider those things that were gain to me as a loss for Christ.
- John 9:25–38He therefore answered, “I don’t know if he is a sinner. One thing I do know: that though I was blind, now I see.”
- Luke 9:26For whoever will be ashamed of me and of my words, of him will the Son of Man be ashamed, when he comes in his glory, and the glory of the Father, and of the holy angels.
- John 16:28I came from the Father, and have come into the world. Again, I leave the world, and go to the Father.”
- Luke 10:16Whoever listens to you listens to me, and whoever rejects you rejects me. Whoever rejects me rejects him who sent me.”
- Luke 12:8“I tell you, everyone who confesses me before men, him will the Son of Man also confess before the angels of God;
- Song 1:2Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth; for your love is better than wine.
- Mark 14:6–9But Jesus said, “Leave her alone. Why do you trouble her? She has done a good work for me.
- Gal 6:14But far be it from me to boast, except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, through which the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world.
- 1 Cor 1:28and God chose the lowly things of the world, and the things that are despised, and the things that are not, that he might bring to nothing the things that are:
- Heb 2:9–14But we see him who has been made a little lower than the angels, Jesus, because of the suffering of death crowned with glory and honor, that by the grace of God he should taste of death for everyone.
- Mark 12:42–44A poor widow came, and she cast in two small brass coins, which equal a quadrans coin.
- Luke 10:23–24Turning to the disciples, he said privately, “Blessed are the eyes which see the things that you see,
- John 3:13No one has ascended into heaven, but he who descended out of heaven, the Son of Man, who is in heaven.
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The poetry of covenant love between bride and bridegroom pictures, at its highest, the love of Christ for his church — the Bridegroom who gave himself for his bride.
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