Do not give your strength to women, your ways to those who destroy kings.
Parallel translations
- WEB Don’t give your strength to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings.
- KJV Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.
- BSB Do not spend your strength on women or your vigor on those who ruin kings.
- NKJV Do not give your strength to women, Nor your ways to that which destroys kings.
- NASB Do not give your strength to women, Or your ways to that which destroys kings.
- NLT do not waste your strength on women, on those who ruin kings.
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Quick answer
She warns her son not to squander his strength on women or on what destroys kings.
Overview
The mother cautions against sexual indulgence and entanglements that have ruined many rulers. Misdirected passion drains strength and clouds judgment, undoing leaders. Her counsel calls for self-control and disciplined devotion to one's calling, virtues that honor God and find their perfect model in the singular faithfulness of Christ the King.
Cross-references & the web
Cross-references · 6
- Deut 17:17He shall not multiply wives to himself, that his heart not turn away. He shall not greatly multiply to himself silver and gold.
- Neh 13:26Didn’t Solomon king of Israel sin by these things? Yet among many nations was there no king like him, and he was beloved of his God, and God made him king over all Israel. Nevertheless foreign women caused even him to sin.
- Prov 7:26–27for she has thrown down many wounded. Yes, all her slain are a mighty army.
- Prov 5:9–11lest you give your honor to others, and your years to the cruel one;
- 1 Kgs 11:1Now king Solomon loved many foreign women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Sidonians, and Hittites;
- Hos 4:11Prostitution, wine, and new wine take away understanding.
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