Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling.
Parallel translations
- WEB It is an honor for a man to keep aloof from strife; but every fool will be quarreling.
- KJV It is an honour for a man to cease from strife: but every fool will be meddling.
- BSB It is honorable for a man to resolve a dispute, but any fool will quarrel.
- NKJV It is honorable for a man to stop striving, Since any fool can start a quarrel.
- NASB Avoiding strife is an honor for a person, But any fool will quarrel.
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Quick answer
Avoiding strife is honorable; only fools love to quarrel. It is a mark of dignity to keep clear of needless conflict.
Overview
This proverb declares it an honor for a person to keep aloof from strife, while every fool is quick to quarrel. It elevates peaceableness as a sign of true dignity and wisdom. The teaching anticipates Jesus' blessing on peacemakers (Matt. 5:9) and Paul's call to live at peace with all as far as it depends on us (Rom. 12:18), reflecting the reconciling heart of the gospel.
Cross-references & the web
Cross-references · 13
- Prov 16:32One who is slow to anger is better than the mighty; one who rules his spirit, than he who takes a city.
- Prov 17:14The beginning of strife is like breaching a dam, therefore stop contention before quarreling breaks out.
- Prov 19:11The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger. It is his glory to overlook an offense.
- Prov 18:6A fool’s lips come into strife, and his mouth invites beatings.
- Eph 4:32And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you.
- Prov 14:29He who is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a quick temper displays folly.
- Jas 4:1Where do wars and fightings among you come from? Don’t they come from your pleasures that war in your members?
- Prov 21:24The proud and haughty man, “scoffer” is his name; he works in the arrogance of pride.
- Eph 1:6–8to the praise of the glory of his grace, by which he freely gave us favor in the Beloved,
- Jas 3:14But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, don’t boast and don’t lie against the truth.
- Prov 14:17He who is quick to become angry will commit folly, and a crafty man is hated.
- 2 Kgs 14:9Jehoash the king of Israel sent to Amaziah king of Judah, saying, “The thistle that was in Lebanon sent to the cedar that was in Lebanon, saying, ‘Give your daughter to my son as wife. Then a wild animal that was in Lebanon passed by, and trampled down the thistle.
- Prov 25:8–10Don’t be hasty in bringing charges to court. What will you do in the end when your neighbor shames you?
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