And it shall be, when their fathers or their brethren come unto us to complain, that we will say unto them, Be favourable unto them for our sakes: because we reserved not to each man his wife in the war: for ye did not give unto them at this time, that ye should be guilty.
Parallel translations
- WEB It shall be, when their fathers or their brothers come to complain to us, that we will say to them, ‘Grant them graciously to us, because we didn’t take for each man his wife in battle, neither did you give them to them, otherwise you would now be guilty.’”
- BSB When their fathers or brothers come to us to complain, we will tell them, ‘Do us a favor by helping them, since we did not get wives for each of them in the war. Since you did not actually give them your daughters, you have no guilt.’”
- NKJV Then it shall be, when their fathers or their brothers come to us to complain, that we will say to them, ‘Be kind to them for our sakes, because we did not take a wife for any of them in the war; for it is not as though you have given the women to them at this time, making yourselves guilty of your oath.’ ”
- NASB And when their fathers or their brothers come to complain to us, we shall say to them, ‘Give them to us voluntarily, because we did not take for each man of Benjamin a wife in battle, nor did you give them to them, otherwise you would now be guilty.’ ”
- NLT And when their fathers and brothers come to us in protest, we will tell them, ‘Please be sympathetic. Let them have your daughters, for we didn’t find wives for all of them when we destroyed Jabesh-gilead. And you are not guilty of breaking the vow since you did not actually give your daughters to them in marriage.’”
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Quick answer
The elders planned to appease the women's fathers by arguing they had not technically given their daughters away.
Overview
They prepared an excuse: since the men 'took' rather than were 'given' wives, the fathers would not have violated the oath. This legalistic reasoning sought to preserve the letter of the vow while ignoring its spirit and the harm done. The contrived justification exposes how far Israel had strayed from straightforward obedience and justice.
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- Judg 21:18Howbeit we may not give them wives of our daughters: for the children of Israel have sworn, saying, Cursed be he that giveth a wife to Benjamin.
- Judg 21:1Now the men of Israel had sworn in Mizpeh, saying, There shall not any of us give his daughter unto Benjamin to wife.
- Mark 10:6–8But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
- Judg 21:14And Benjamin came again at that time; and they gave them wives which they had saved alive of the women of Jabeshgilead: and yet so they sufficed them not.
- Prov 20:25It is a snare to the man who devoureth that which is holy, and after vows to make enquiry.
- Judg 21:7How shall we do for wives for them that remain, seeing we have sworn by the LORD that we will not give them of our daughters to wives?
- Phlm 1:9–12Yet for love’s sake I rather beseech thee, being such an one as Paul the aged, and now also a prisoner of Jesus Christ.
- 1 Cor 7:2Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
- Gen 1:27So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
- Gen 7:13In the selfsame day entered Noah, and Shem, and Ham, and Japheth, the sons of Noah, and Noah’s wife, and the three wives of his sons with them, into the ark;
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